Why girls cheat

It's one major ego breaker. We guys are more likely to cheat on our girlfriends but what if it happens the other away around? That is totally heartbreaking. Not to say though that it's less heartbreaking for the girls when their boyfriends cheat on them. Cheating is not right, period. That's even reason enough to break-up. Below are some reasons why girls take the road to infidelity. And for you to do something before that happens!
Boredom. Yes, girls are capable of that. Even if they talk a lot and create a lot of drama all at the same time, they can be bored in a relationship. So find something exciting and memorable thing to do together everyday. Even if it's just a call or to send her message reminding her how much you love her, that's more than enough.
Unfinished business. Does your girl have an ex she's been trying to get over with for the longest time? If this wasn't settled, then it could be one reason why she would suddenly cheat on you. Maybe she finds something lacking in your relationship that she's still longing for from the other guy. You're only option here, sadly, is to break-up with her. You don't want to be someone who is thinking of someone else.
No drama. Are you becoming too predictable? Are you both always happy? Do you do the same things and talk about the same things? Sounds like you both should find something to fight about. Really! Not kidding. Drama adds spice to a relationship and fights will make your bond stronger.
Too nice boyfriend. Saying yes to your every girl's whim will definitely urge them to cheat. Make them realize your value and make it two-way. It's a give and take relationship. It's not your job to just give and give. Demand from time to time and make her work her way up to your rewards. At the same time, realize her worth. Being nice is nice but too much is definitely not a good idea.

THE SESSION

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SPECIAL THANKS TO EVERYONE ON BOARD THIS MOVEMENT .......... DADZ, BELZY, KELCHI

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BOOTY CALLS

Today's topic has several names  friends with benefits, midnight rendezvous,  sex calls, and more. Call them what you will, but they are all essentially booty  calls. Perhaps you've been in this situation - you and a "friend" or  acquaintance agree that you're both horny, so why not? As we all know, after you  do it the first time, it's much easier the second, so all of a sudden the  situation becomes escalated. The one-night stand becomes a routine booty call.  Can a booty all ever become more?
In a word - no. HOLD UP! WAIT! Before you begin writing your missives detailing  your successful relationships, I fully acknowledge that it CAN work out, but  those situations are rare. It CAN turn out that both of you have feelings for  one another, etc., and you live happily ever after, blah, blah, blah.i have spoken to lots of people on this subject , and most of you say, no, this  situation is too tricky and has little hope. So let's discuss.


Hard to believe, but not all people establish guidelines when entering a sex  call situation. This is significant! If you truly, truly are only interested in  a physical relation- ship, you have a duty to CLEARLY express that to your  P, however long you intend to continue relations. Make sure you both have  the same intentions and are on the same page before you begin. These situations  are difficult enough without muddying the waters like this. On the other hand...
This is where it becomes pretty tricky. Sex changes every- thing. You might  think you can "handle" it, that it won't affect you, or that you TRULY are only  in it for the givings, but no one knows how they will react after slipping  between the sheets, bouncing on the couch, or bonking against the wall, wherever  you do the deed :) You could sleep with a "friend", going into the situation  with purely physical intentions, but wind up feeling completely different. The  point is, you can't predict how you'll feel. 
Now imagine this: you realize you DO feel differently, that perhaps you ARE  interested in pursuing a relationship with this person. Ah, ah, wait a minute!  The disclaimer is already out there. You've already established this was only  going to be physical, so back up, buddy. Now are you pondering the situation.  How can this friend be so intimate with you and not want more? You obviously  care about each other, right? I've seen COUNTLESS situations  where one or both people get hurt in a booty call situation. One piece of advice  - if you know going into it that you have ANY SLIVER OF EMOTIONAL feelings for  the person, BACK OFF. If you harbor feelings for your booty call, but he/she  doesn't reciprocate, leave before the potential for getting hurt escalates even  further.

And think about this: before you engage in action, consider all the possible  consequences. How are you going to feel when you see this person in a social  setting, with a NEW P, or simply overlooking you? It probably won't feel  that swell. Remember, booty calls theoretically don't talk about how their day  went, share holidays, and go on traditional dates. The potential for one person  to get hurt is quite high. But again, you can't predict how you are going to  react. Sex changes everything.

One last thought - it started out as only a booty call for a reason.

MIDNITE - P.S.A(Woo riddim) freestyle *HOOD VIDEO*

i dont think weed is bad for you

I don't actually believe that most people smoke because it's cool. although some people just take it to feel among or TRY and look hard/bad gois

Some people use weed to relax, some use it for medicinal purposes, other people use it because it's fun.

Don't generalize and say everyone does it for the same reason.

Also, what exactly does maturity have to do with smoking weed? And for those who say people who use it are low-lifes, that's sad that you feel you need to judge someone based on something like weed!!!!.

I contribute to society everyday, as does my buddy femi. We are both successful in our academics and we are doing very well in our lives. But the simple fact that we enjoy ourselves in our own home by smoking weed makes us scum?

It's the people that judge for no reason that are the problem with society. Not people like me.

Why are girls so confused?

Girls. Girls are confusing, because they, unlike guys, aren't simple. they always try to improve on EVERYTHING, and make the best it can be. Homeowrk, projects. guys..

But most guys don't care about that. They wonder why girls are so confusing in relationships.
 girls...they like it if the relationship is filled with fun, or action. No girl wants to be in a boring, lousy relationship. So girls try to spice it up a bit, add some drama. You guys may not understand this reasoning, but its true. so LISTEN UP, MALES OF THE EARTH!!

If you find a girl confusing, its either because she's finding things to be a little....blah, or she's challenged, or she just likes to be confusing.

Try to understand guys. If you're wondering why a girl is so confusing in a relationship, do something. Take her out to a movie, go shopping with her (MAJOR POINTS), just do something!

girls are also constantly trying to analyze boys words, or they try to figure out what or how we feel about them. they sometimes over react and play hard to get, but thats just cause they like you. if your girlfriend is being a little confusing, just ask her, or maybe its time to say goodbye...



"He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it easier to do it a second time." Thomos Jefferson

why need cloud your judgement

I’ve been reading another fascinating book this week about how crazy we humans are... called irrationality...the basic premise of the book is that while we tend to believe that human beings are generally sensible and rational, a great deal of the thinking we do is so far from rational it’s bordering on dumb and even dangerous.it answered a few of my questions why we cloud our judgments for example we hear "yans" about people probably people we are yet to meet or people we know but do not talk to... if for instance what we hear is not so good most of us begin to judge that person why?most of the judgements and choices we make are based on snap judgements, lazy thinking and irrational reasoning... bear in mind some of these key points that I’ve summarised for you is from the book. Oh, and they could also be very useful for sharpening your communication and persuasive skills…

Our naturally lazy thinking. One of the main forms of irrationality that human beings are subject to is what is known as the ‘availability error’. When making any kind of decision we tend to be influenced very strongly by pieces of information that are most readily available, vivid and or emotionally powerful in our minds - rather than taking time to weight up a lot of (dry) information on the subject.

How you can use this to your advantage. If you’re meeting somebody new, for example, bear in mind that your mind will probably make an opinion of that person within the first few minutes and will be reluctant to absorb any new information that might falsify that view. If you are trying to suggest a plan to another person, bear in mind that the first one or two things you tell them might almost be the only things they really absorb.

Also, if you’re writing an exam paper or doing a speech, make the first bit the best because that’s where most people will make their judgement. 

Irrationality in crowds. Another form of human irrationality is our tendency to conform or go along with the crowd.. even on occasions when we know it is wrong. There is a certain embarrassment, it would seem, in taking a different view from those around you - or in being seen to look or act differently from others. Simply realising how irrational this kind of sheep mentality is can be can be very liberating and may actually help us improve our self-image and feeling of self-actualisation and autonomy.

Emotion is another thing that clouds our ability to think rationally. If we are in a really good mood, for example, we are much more likely to judge everything in a more positive light. If we are in a low mood we are more likely to see things in a poor light. It is a good idea, therefore, not to make important decisions when you are feeling either high or low but rather wait ‘till you are feeling more neutral best believe this i am a victim of acting towards my emotions and it was not pretty its all good.

we “act spontaneously, and although this may be endearing or irritating depending on one’s viewpoint, it can lead to irrational acts that is to say, had they thought before acting, they might have acted in a way more likely to achieve their ends.”sutherland says 

well thats it... where i am leading towards is that we have to be a bit open minded and its not everything you see or hear you should believe.... have a mind of your own my dad always told me.

i hope i ddnt just rant about irrelevant shit and you learn something from all that has been written. just thought i should share what i have learnt this week with you lot thanks for reading..




"The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor."Vince Lombard

So it begins...

Anyone who knows the people that have started this blog will know what we're about, if you dont, let me summarise this in three words: sex, drugs and rock n roll! (well that's the dream anyway) but no seriously, this is what the blog's about.

Now,  some of you might think that's a bit crude and to be perfectly honest it is, but that's really not all there is to it, it's about voicing our opinions on anything which crosses ours or even your minds, so for all of my (fellow) nymphomaniacs it wont just be greasy disgusting stories about how this girl got given etc. It's about anything and everything which we think is interesting.

At this point I'd also like to mention that I am not a blogger, so pardon not-so-great blogging skills, we'd probably tend to ramble on and on about random shit which no one would care about or necessarily agree with, and its cool if you disagree, we love such, but if you disagree, please for the love of GOD, don't start swearing or acting like you're ready to assassinate our families. Just be civilised and we'll be civilised as well (at least to the best of our abilities).

This has probably been a painful read, and if your eyes are bleeding, I apologize profusely, if however you enjoyed it, we'll be back, with some disturbingly cool ideas so please continue reading...

P.S one of us is extremely enthusiastic about this and so we have our own email address, if you feel like we should talk about something because you think we've got some mad takes on some topics then email us at lostinthoughts@yahoo.co.uk

Well that's it from me. Smoke weed! It's healthier than cigs - never mind the side effects
Much love
William Shakespeare