It's one major ego breaker. We guys are more likely to cheat on our girlfriends but what if it happens the other away around? That is totally heartbreaking. Not to say though that it's less heartbreaking for the girls when their boyfriends cheat on them. Cheating is not right, period. That's even reason enough to break-up. Below are some reasons why girls take the road to infidelity. And for you to do something before that happens!
Boredom. Yes, girls are capable of that. Even if they talk a lot and create a lot of drama all at the same time, they can be bored in a relationship. So find something exciting and memorable thing to do together everyday. Even if it's just a call or to send her message reminding her how much you love her, that's more than enough.
Unfinished business. Does your girl have an ex she's been trying to get over with for the longest time? If this wasn't settled, then it could be one reason why she would suddenly cheat on you. Maybe she finds something lacking in your relationship that she's still longing for from the other guy. You're only option here, sadly, is to break-up with her. You don't want to be someone who is thinking of someone else.
No drama. Are you becoming too predictable? Are you both always happy? Do you do the same things and talk about the same things? Sounds like you both should find something to fight about. Really! Not kidding. Drama adds spice to a relationship and fights will make your bond stronger.
Too nice boyfriend. Saying yes to your every girl's whim will definitely urge them to cheat. Make them realize your value and make it two-way. It's a give and take relationship. It's not your job to just give and give. Demand from time to time and make her work her way up to your rewards. At the same time, realize her worth. Being nice is nice but too much is definitely not a good idea.
Wednesday, 15 December 2010
Tuesday, 14 December 2010
THE SESSION
shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii you know what it is people the session on the 22nd at parkview ikoyi its gonna be epic if you want it to be OFCOURSE. its all about you everything on the house from booze to green.. good music nice people kind of like a get together if you like to fajiiiiiiiii you know where to be on the 22nd... more details about this event later.
SPECIAL THANKS TO EVERYONE ON BOARD THIS MOVEMENT .......... DADZ, BELZY, KELCHI
YOU COULD CATCH THEM ON TWITTER @DADZ_91 @THEREALBELZY01
SPECIAL THANKS TO EVERYONE ON BOARD THIS MOVEMENT .......... DADZ, BELZY, KELCHI
YOU COULD CATCH THEM ON TWITTER @DADZ_91 @THEREALBELZY01
BOOTY CALLS
Today's topic has several names friends with benefits, midnight rendezvous, sex calls, and more. Call them what you will, but they are all essentially booty calls. Perhaps you've been in this situation - you and a "friend" or acquaintance agree that you're both horny, so why not? As we all know, after you do it the first time, it's much easier the second, so all of a sudden the situation becomes escalated. The one-night stand becomes a routine booty call. Can a booty all ever become more?
In a word - no. HOLD UP! WAIT! Before you begin writing your missives detailing your successful relationships, I fully acknowledge that it CAN work out, but those situations are rare. It CAN turn out that both of you have feelings for one another, etc., and you live happily ever after, blah, blah, blah.i have spoken to lots of people on this subject , and most of you say, no, this situation is too tricky and has little hope. So let's discuss.
Hard to believe, but not all people establish guidelines when entering a sex call situation. This is significant! If you truly, truly are only interested in a physical relation- ship, you have a duty to CLEARLY express that to your P, however long you intend to continue relations. Make sure you both have the same intentions and are on the same page before you begin. These situations are difficult enough without muddying the waters like this. On the other hand...
This is where it becomes pretty tricky. Sex changes every- thing. You might think you can "handle" it, that it won't affect you, or that you TRULY are only in it for the givings, but no one knows how they will react after slipping between the sheets, bouncing on the couch, or bonking against the wall, wherever you do the deed :) You could sleep with a "friend", going into the situation with purely physical intentions, but wind up feeling completely different. The point is, you can't predict how you'll feel.
Now imagine this: you realize you DO feel differently, that perhaps you ARE interested in pursuing a relationship with this person. Ah, ah, wait a minute! The disclaimer is already out there. You've already established this was only going to be physical, so back up, buddy. Now are you pondering the situation. How can this friend be so intimate with you and not want more? You obviously care about each other, right? I've seen COUNTLESS situations where one or both people get hurt in a booty call situation. One piece of advice - if you know going into it that you have ANY SLIVER OF EMOTIONAL feelings for the person, BACK OFF. If you harbor feelings for your booty call, but he/she doesn't reciprocate, leave before the potential for getting hurt escalates even further.
And think about this: before you engage in action, consider all the possible consequences. How are you going to feel when you see this person in a social setting, with a NEW P, or simply overlooking you? It probably won't feel that swell. Remember, booty calls theoretically don't talk about how their day went, share holidays, and go on traditional dates. The potential for one person to get hurt is quite high. But again, you can't predict how you are going to react. Sex changes everything.
One last thought - it started out as only a booty call for a reason.
In a word - no. HOLD UP! WAIT! Before you begin writing your missives detailing your successful relationships, I fully acknowledge that it CAN work out, but those situations are rare. It CAN turn out that both of you have feelings for one another, etc., and you live happily ever after, blah, blah, blah.i have spoken to lots of people on this subject , and most of you say, no, this situation is too tricky and has little hope. So let's discuss.
Hard to believe, but not all people establish guidelines when entering a sex call situation. This is significant! If you truly, truly are only interested in a physical relation- ship, you have a duty to CLEARLY express that to your P, however long you intend to continue relations. Make sure you both have the same intentions and are on the same page before you begin. These situations are difficult enough without muddying the waters like this. On the other hand...
This is where it becomes pretty tricky. Sex changes every- thing. You might think you can "handle" it, that it won't affect you, or that you TRULY are only in it for the givings, but no one knows how they will react after slipping between the sheets, bouncing on the couch, or bonking against the wall, wherever you do the deed :) You could sleep with a "friend", going into the situation with purely physical intentions, but wind up feeling completely different. The point is, you can't predict how you'll feel.
Now imagine this: you realize you DO feel differently, that perhaps you ARE interested in pursuing a relationship with this person. Ah, ah, wait a minute! The disclaimer is already out there. You've already established this was only going to be physical, so back up, buddy. Now are you pondering the situation. How can this friend be so intimate with you and not want more? You obviously care about each other, right? I've seen COUNTLESS situations where one or both people get hurt in a booty call situation. One piece of advice - if you know going into it that you have ANY SLIVER OF EMOTIONAL feelings for the person, BACK OFF. If you harbor feelings for your booty call, but he/she doesn't reciprocate, leave before the potential for getting hurt escalates even further.
And think about this: before you engage in action, consider all the possible consequences. How are you going to feel when you see this person in a social setting, with a NEW P, or simply overlooking you? It probably won't feel that swell. Remember, booty calls theoretically don't talk about how their day went, share holidays, and go on traditional dates. The potential for one person to get hurt is quite high. But again, you can't predict how you are going to react. Sex changes everything.
One last thought - it started out as only a booty call for a reason.
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